Sometimes we make it harder than it is
We'll take a perfect night
And fill it up with words we don't mean
Dark sides best unseen
And we wonder why we're feeling this way
That's what love is for
To help us through it
That's what love is for
Nothing else can do it
IN OUR HEARTS, we know what matters most in life is loving and being loved - so when that isn't happening in your relationship, you feel lost and hurt. As long as there's hope of making things better, there's a chance to rebuild your relationship, recapture those feelings from long ago, develop new feelings of fondness you never had, and move forward with your partner toward a better, healthier, and happier future.
Our counselors specialize in Marriage counseling that gets to the heart of the matter - helping you and your loved one strengthen your bonds of love, trust, responsiveness and safe connection.
WHY should we choose Wright Counseling Group to help us with our marriage or relationship?
All couples face challenges. Couples often get stuck in negative cycles of attacking and emotional withdrawal. I look for attention; You don't recognize my need; I feel abandoned and attack; You withdraw; I attack harder; You withdraw more. Sound familiar?
Our approach to couples counseling helps you address fundamental issues of trust and safety.
We guide you to identify and address any issues or behaviors that prevent the possibility for trust and safety to be rebuilt.
We help you create a sense of safety so that you can begin to heal the emotional wounds caused by violations of love and trust.
We aim to restore the relationship as a safe haven for both of you, allowing the hurts from the past to become a memory, rather than a reflection of your current reality of renewed love and trust.
We are the only counselors in the Mid-South with specialized training in relationship counseling including The Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT). Research has shown that 85 to 90% of couples undertaking, committing to and sticking with a therapist trained in these methods report significant improvement and 70 to 75% of couples recover from their distress. They usually experience substantial change, even in relationships that have had significant pain and heartache. The bonus is that couples usually like the approach.
HOW can Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) help?
With Emotionally Focused Therapy, we can help you escape hurtful patterns so you can understand one another, get to the heart of the matter, and move forward together.
EFT can help you answer key questions of your relationship.
Are you really going to be there for me?
Do I really matter to you?
Can I turn to you for comfort and strength? If I am hurting or afraid, will you come to me?
Do you value me for who I am? Can I be my real self with you?
Are we in this together? Can I count on you to "have my back"?
Emotionally focused therapy helps couples identify and change patterns in relationships and learn to speak with one another in kinder and more genuine ways. This softer and more collaborative communication style allows couples to resolve old conflicts and create more loving interactions. This results in an improved relationship based on trust and mutual support.
Beginning Couples Counseling
What to Expect
When beginning couples therapy with you, we first need to create not just a sketch, but a painting of your relationship. The more detailed that painting is, the better. To create that painting, we go through a very specific process together which includes a total of four sessions with two options to reach our goal.
Your counselor will meet with both of you together for the first session to gather information and to get a feel for your relationship. They will typically ask you to individually complete some questionnaires online prior to sessions two and three. The questionnaires are long and extensive, but it's all in service to creating an accurate painting.
Sessions Two and Three:
Your counselor will meet with each of you separately for sessions two and three. These individual sessions are very important and give us a chance to learn about your family backgrounds. While we're doing couples counseling this is the only time we will meet with either of you separately, unless there is some specific reason.
We will meet together again for the fourth session. Based on all of the information you've given us, we will provide you detailed feedback regarding your strengths and areas for concern in your relationship.
1. Four Sessions; Four Days. The four one hour sessions will be held over a period of three to four weeks.
2. Accelerated Beginning. Four Sessions, Half Day. All four sessions done in a single half day.